Mental Health,  Motivation

How to Shut Off

Last month, I was able to go on a family vacation. Reflecting back, I am feeling very blessed. I have to say, leading up to vacation I was getting stressed. I struggle with anxiety, and then to take me out of my comfort zone, and having to travel, well, I stress a bit more. Don’t get me wrong, I get very excited about the trip. I look forward to being at the beach relaxing. However, it isn’t in my nature to be calm, leading up to it.

I also struggle with not being in a routine. Yes I need time off work, breaks from stresses of everyday life, but I thrive with routine and structure. It keeps me focused and motivated. That is just how my personality functions. I love being productive, getting my to do’s checked off. I like the feeling of success.

With this trip, I told myself I would disconnect and shut off. I had to be very proactive with this, and make sure that I really listened to myself. I knew I desperately needed it. So I did. I limited my social media interactions, I didn’t work on the blog, I barely stayed in contact with others. And you know what? It was glorious. I am always worried about people, checking in on others, planning, running, doing all the things. My soul needed the break.

Sometimes getting away, truly helps to put things into perspective.

I am learning to find more confidence, not to be dependent on what others think of me. I need not to worry about other peoples opinions, all the time. It can be so draining. I know this may sound blunt and harsh, but it is how I feel. I am not saying to never be there for others, ever. However, you have to take care of yourself too. You cannot give from an empty cup. This has been something I have discussed numerous times, but it can’t be said enough. We have to take care of ourselves, both mentally and physically. We cannot feel guilty for that. We matter too.

So what I have learned is, to keep going and helping others, sometimes you need the break. Sometimes you need to disconnect, and shut off. You come back more energized and stronger than before.

Do you struggle with shutting off? What do you do, to regroup? I would love to hear, what has worked for you!



  • Bill

    Your post today was very thought provoking. You did a great job with it.

    Thanks for the words of GREAT wisdom!