Mental Health,  Wellness

Finding Your Balance

Hey y’all. Before I had my daughter Anna, I had no concept of time. I thought I did, but I was really clueless. I thought I was busy then, but boy, did I have another thing coming after having Anna! She has been the best thing that has happened to us, and I am beyond blessed to be her mom. However, after I had Anna I was unsure how I would get everything done. Where would I find time to be a good wife, a good mom, an employee, to take care of myself physically, take care of a house…the list goes on.

The first year after having Anna, I was lost for a bit. Maybe that is normal for first time moms. I was adapting month after month, to my growing, learning, sweet baby girl. But honestly I felt like I was drowning. I was unsure of who I was.

Fast forward to almost three years later, and I am a completely different person. A more confident version of myself, and a more confident mom. Now, this did not happen overnight. It took time, reflection, honesty and flexibility.

I wanted to compile a list of some tips that have helped me the past few years. Things on this list have empowered and encouraged me to live my best life, and be the best wife and mom possible.

  • Choose a prep day. Sunday is this day for me. I meal prep all meals for the week, plan what days I will work out, get laundry done, get some cleaning done. Anything that helps me prep for the week ahead.
  • Create a to do list for the week of tasks that need to get done. You can create one list for the week, or break it down day by day. This list can include errands, housework, plans, whatever you need to accomplish.
  • Ensure you don’t overbook yourself. I try to limit my plans to one thing after work, through the week, if anything at all. I want to be able to enjoy time with my family when we get home as much as possible.
  • Find and plan for quiet time. I know that sounds silly, but as a parent, you have to carve out that quiet time, or it may not happen. We all need time to recharge. My quiet time happens in the mornings, before my husband and daughter get up.
  • Put your phone down. My goal, when I am spending time with my family, is to keep my phone in the other room. I want to be present, and not responding to texts and emails. By doing this, it has helped eliminate stress. I also plan for my social media time so that I am no consumed with it all day long.
  • Don’t multitask. I feel that as a society, we all have become great multitaskers. I think there is a time and place for it. However, in my home life, it doesn’t work. I need to be all in for whatever I am focusing on. Whether quality time with my loved ones, working out, cleaning, reading, etc. I enjoy tasks much more when doing this.
  • Less time watching TV. By eliminating so much TV time, it has freed me up to accomplish so much more. Now, I am not saying I never watch anything, but it is less these days.

These are just some tips that have worked for me. I encourage you each to sit down and evaluate your time. Reflect on what is important to you. Figure out what goals you want to achieve, and what you want out of this life. Then begin there.



  • Cristi

    Great advice in this post! What’s that saying, “jack of all trades, but master of none”. I am guilty of this and multi tasking way too much. 2019 is my year of learning Balance.

    • fiercelyfearless

      It has taken me a lot of time to figure this out, and I am still on my journey of finding balance. But I think, if we all make small changes a little at a time, we will be in a much stronger place with it all.